Sunday, December 13, 2009

In Constant Battle With Yourself

Regardless of a person's level of intelligence, wealth, or age, we all struggle with decision making. Why is it so hard to make the right choice at all times? Sometimes I feel as if I'm having an out of body experience. I look back at a situation and find myself saying, "Did I really just do that?" or "I can't believe I just said that! What in the world was I thinking?" It's as if it wasn't even me talking or carrying out that particular action; it was somebody else.

Sometimes it seems as if we're in a constant battle against ourselves for the control of our own mind. It's as if our real self takes a nap, only to wake up right after that other self has made a stupid decision. Now the real self has to suffer the consequences. And then we're left thinking, "What in the hell just happened?!?" (see Tiger Woods, Mark Sanford, Kanye West)

Unfortunately, this "coma-like" state can last for weeks, months, even years for some people, before they come back to their senses. By that time, they may have lived a life that they never intended.

As a child many of our mishaps are chalked up to being young or inexperienced, but what's the excuse when we grow up and become adults? What is it that causes these laps in judgement? What is it that makes people wander about in a conscious yet unconscious state of mind? If you know someone who is currently living with this state of mind, what can you do to help them to come back to reality to see again? How can we counteract moments of blindness to prevent decisions that can negatively affect us forever?

6 comments:

Don said...

I honestly think it all comes down to desire. Meaning, we consciously make decisions based on that which resides within, whether deep or surfaced.

And the fact that we may feel like we can commit an act without the threat of retribution.

Other times, we just made a mistake. Perhaps.

Daniel Kelvin Bullock said...

Limited Edition, I feel ya... IMO, this just reiterates the importance of a relationship with God. Yea, yeah, I know that's cliche', but the bottom line of life is we need a relationship with God to navigate our good and bad decisions. A relationship with Him helps us to avoid alot of falls in life. And, when we fall, anyway, He helps us to get back up.

D.L. Hughley used to say "You need Jesus" all the time in his stand up on Comic View... I know he was trying to be funny, but those words resonate in my mind on a daily basis...

Dr. Ronda Taylor Bullock said...

Don I agree with you. I think sometimes we give in to our desires to please something inside of us, without thinking about the consequences. I guess that makes us human.

KB, I think my relationship with God has helped me to manage those lapses that I sometimes have. At those times when my relationship with God isn't as strong as it should be, that's when I have the most "Did that just happen?!?" moments.

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